How do you see the world? Is it a safe place? Or is it full of danger and intrigue? Are you able to trust others? Too trusting? Do you feel like you “fit in”? Or are you lost?
Our worldview affects how we see everything and everybody in our lives. It affects relationships. It affects our careers. It shapes our understanding of spiritual or religious beliefs….or lack thereof. It informs our creation, enforcement and maintenance of boundaries. It shapes who we are as a mom, dad, son, daughter, husband, wife…citizen.
We are a product of our worldview.
We are not a prisoner to our worldview.
If I see the world as unsafe and not worthy of trust, I will enter every new relationship feeling unsafe and distrusting. If I see the world as fun and care free I may be in for disappointment when unexpected troubles come. And they will. If I see the world as chaotic, my life is likely to look like it is in the vortex of a large jet engine. If I see the world as a peaceful place, I am likely to be at peace myself.
We believe what we believe about the world because we learned it. From someone. Maybe many someones.
Think about the important people that raised you. Parents, grandparents, foster parents, nanny…
What are their worldviews? Chances are good that yours are similar. Good or bad…you probably have the same or similar view of the world as they do…simply because they taught you what you believe about the world. I don’t mean they sat you at a desk and lectured (though some of them undoubtedly did just that). Most of us learn by our “teachers” actions.
Though many of us aspire to be everything our parents (and other teachers) are or were…others of us vowed at some point to be everything our parents were NOT.
Whatever the case…we initially believe what we believe about the world because we were taught. Ultimately, we CHOOSE to believe what we believe. We are a product of our upbringing…but we are not a prisoner to it. As adults, we are able to make choices. We get to choose a dangerous worldview…an unsafe worldview…a peaceful worldview. Our past, in many ways, shapes who we are. As such, we cannot go back and change the past. But we can start today to create a hopeful future.
I wonder if you believe that….